Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Terrible Twos

I have struggled at times with whether or not to write about some of the challenges I face in my day to day life. I don't like to dwell on the negative, but a fair and honest representation of life with 3 kids under 3 is not always a barrel of laughs.

I don't think my boys are any worse than others, it's just that there are two of them, so their 'two-ness' is so ongoing. And I also realize that other people/mothers are just a lot better at this business, and it is more a reflection of my shortcomings than anything else. I can't even fathom families with more multiples! Bless all their hearts!
Luckily I have a husband who adores his children and makes a real effort to spend time with them. There are times when his patience and tenderness are an inspiration.

The constant NEED of two year olds is what can be so completely overwhelming at times. The constant need for attention and entertainment.
The constant need for supervision is a big one with me. If I turn my back for a second bad things happen. Some just annoying like taking a bite out of all the apples in the bowl or unplugging the tv, but some a little scary like escaping from the yard or running onto the road or hiding in the car.
They have a constant need to get their own way, or whine and scream when they don't. They seem to need to throw food on the floor at every meal. Regardless of any time/effort I put into making dinner, or not.

Or they need to fight over whatever toy the other has.

I could go on and on here...

I don't think my life is terrible, nor do I think my kids are terrible (usually). It's just the way that it takes everything you have to get through the day sometimes in ways you never expected before you became a parent. I expect (hope, cling to the notion) that things get easier, at least to some degree, as they get older. In the meantime, we just keep on keeping on...

(The baby is now awake and crying and the boys have thrown their lunch, and shirts on the floor)


Mmmmaaahvelous said...

Oh the tears are threatening to spill over as I read that entry...and they are not the tears of my children.
What's a mom to do?
It's HARD. I don't care what anyone says, it's hard...for every mom even for those who only have 3 under 3 or 4 under 2 or 2 under 2.
The best thing we can do is support each other, ask for help, and find some way to laugh & find time for ourselves.
Otherwise....drinking sounds good too.:)

Two Mittens said...

You totally made me laugh at the end...thanks Mrs. M...cheers!!

Peace Sweet Peas said...

It will get better. Now that Z is getting right into the terrible two stuff I realize how much E isnt like that anymore. She can still have a big screaming tantrum but they happen maybe once a week. She can entertain herself so much more and even though she was getting water on the floor when the girls were playing today at the sink it was more on purpose and so actually bigger than Z but not so inevitable as Z. And it does help the more they talk. Of course now if I lose my temper and shout at her she shouts back and then talks repeatedly about how we were shouting at each other! And shes picked up our bad habit of shouting at Fred. Shes more controlled nad less chaotic than before. She rarely throws food on the floor and when she does she knows shes going to get in trouble. On the other hand she can get really fixated. Shes decided that she wants to call me Carla and me and T telling her differently is making no difference whatsoever. Today even Z was picking up on it.

And Mrs Two Mittens I think we all think that the other Mothers are doing it better than we are...

Two Mittens said...

Thanks Mrs. Sweet Peas. It helps to be reminded that it is really a stage and not necessarily an ongoing personality trait that will NEVER GO AWAY!
I think I would totally crack up to hearing E call you by your first name!